It's about three topics that probably affect almost everyone.

Expressing needs
Setting boundaries = saying no.
Being able to deal with a no.

I often hear that people have a hard time saying what they want from the other person or what they don't want.

No matter if it is on a date or in a relationship or between friends.

For myself, all three topics were and still are learning fields in my life.

I now find it much easier to express my wishes and also to communicate what I don't want.

What has helped me?

Practicing playfully in a safe setting.

All emotions are welcome.

Previously, people were afraid and uncertain.

There were giggles and laughter whether from shame or joy.

Tears have flowed, whether from sadness or emotion or both.

Anger also had its place.

It was always important, and it is important this time as well, to take care of the others and to be respectful.

There was always support and assistance.

Then people go back to their lives and report that they are much more capable of acting again.

The workshop is for all those who would like to practice exactly this and at the same time to fill up on one of the most beautiful things in this world:

Closeness and connectedness.

There are clear rules:

Everything is voluntary.
Everything must be asked for.
A verbal "yes" can always become a no.
"Saying no" is welcome and courageous.
A maybe is a no.
Clothes stay on.
Listen to yourself and your gut.
It's about cuddling alone.

We take enough time to practice all of this and there is room to share how we are doing with it.

Most of the time many are excited and a little unsure at first and that is ok and part of the experience we are having together.

Framework:

Part 1: I explain the rules and we practice them.

Part 2: Cuddle party so free cuddling.

Through a hygiene concept, the current requirements are met.

The events take place in the context of private parties.

Participant

Dear Vincent, thank you so much for creating such a safe space last Saturday.
I found the exercises on saying "yes" and "no" incredibly beneficial.

I experience myself as clearer and faster in showing up with my truth in the last days. Thanks also to everyone, for their honest responses to my questions, ideas, suggestions.... And last but not least, a big thank you for so many nurturing touches.

Participant

I just caught myself sending a short video of myself to a friend - just to share my cuddle glow with anyone!
I think that says a lot.

It was nice and there were little challenges here and there for me that I handled well!
My excitement was welcomed in the group, emotions were shared, some amplified, it was colorful!
Nourishingly, in between, one participant said. Yes, that's what I say too!

Participant

Thank you for this deep, healing afternoon of cuddling on multiple levels.

I would not have expected such depth, nevertheless a lot could go into healing. I was able to perceive and enjoy everything, including the wonderful appreciative boundary setting. We have achieved something great, at least for me. Thank you to Vincent and Viola and to all the other participants and attendees for allowing us all to hold the space well. I fűfeel gifted and healed.

Participant

I found yesterday beautiful and nourishing. I had "broken up" with a woman the same day because, among other things, I learned to say "no" in Vincent's cuddle temples.

This addressed woman has only exploited and manipulated me, which I became really aware of yesterday during the cuddle temple and also afterwards. I have said during the cuddle party, to the question of how you feel right now: "Howling and happy at the same time" or something like that.
Vincent always brings cool impulses to the temples. Not only the pure cuddling is mega with him, but also the techniques of mindfulness meditation that flow in again and again make the temples something special.
I'm also doing a lot of inner child work at the moment. When I got up this morning I thought the sentence "No matter what I do, as long as my inner child feels good, people who are against it can fuck off". I would never have thought of this sentence four months ago. I think cuddle parties are also "guilty" of this sentence. So thank you very much for these opportunities.

Participant

I can encourage everyone to go to the cuddle party and face their fears. Be brave, be bold, dare - it's worth it, you'll get it back in happiness a thousand times over.

I went to a cuddle party again last Saturday after a long break.
I was excited to see if I would be excited. What can I say - I wasn't excited at all, zero. It's interesting how that has changed. I remember exactly how I went for the first time in 2017 to what was then called a cuddle party: My heart was beating up to my neck. I felt miserable, sick to my stomach. I could have thrown up. I wanted to turn around and go back home. However, I am not a person who stops things halfway. I go through with things, even if it is unpleasant. My courage was rewarded. I was cuddling quite often in 2017, over and over again. I experienced a lot of positive things and gradually unlearned my fear as a result. I am very grateful for that today. Because of my courage in 2017, I was able to enjoy the cuddle party last Saturday wholeheartedly without fear.

What would I like to say to people who have a desire to go to a cuddle party and may still be hesitant?
I can encourage everyone to go to the cuddle temple and face their fears. Be brave, be courageous, dare - it's worth it, you will get it back a thousand times over in happiness.